Hope you guys enjoyed my previous post telling you all about my holiday and wedding in India, and if you haven’t read it yet then should definitely check it out right here. Now that I’m back in England (I’ve really missed the rain) I wanted to share with you guys what it’s like to live the single life even though I’m not single anymore. A while back I wrote a post about my experience of being in a long distance relationship, and now having spent time with my husband and doing absolutely everything together, I wanted to talk about what it’s like to be in a long distance marriage (LDM). fyi it sucks.
- I’ve mentioned this before but I feel like it’s an even bigger deal now, but communication is everrrrrything. I mean we’re sitting miles and miles apart with an ocean between us, so our relationships depends entirely on good communication. This doesn’t just mean talking to each other (because we do that a lot) but it’s more about how we talk to each other. We have to work extra hard to not let misunderstandings and miscommunication take over, and let me tell you, it’s not hard for things to get a little misunderstood.
- Another crappy thing is spending holidays apart, now this one is a real bummer. I felt especially crappy this past week with Valentine’s Day and not being able to celebrate it with my husband (our first one since being married too). But I did get an extra big card through the post which was cute, although I have no idea where the one I sent to Sonu has ended up because apparently international shipping to India is a bit of a ? these days (definitely going for the tracking option next time).
- Talking about post, we do get to send each other handwritten letters and cards which is super cute and makes me feel like I’m part of a Nicholas Sparks novel, awww. I once put my hairband in a card that I sent to Sonu last summer (I didn’t want to send anything “precious” because you know, I don’t trust Int shipping) and he’s kept it on his wrist ever since he got it – I mean how cute? I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging too much but no one has ever done anything like this for me so maybe I can get away with it?
- The weird thing about being married but not being together is feeling like I’m single, yet still committed – ‘it’s like being stuck in a rock and a hard place’ – yes Rachel Green, I feel ya girl. I mean we don’t get to do normal couple-y things like going out for dinner, or watching movies together and the only real reminder that I’m married is the ring on my finger (oh, and talking to my husband on the phone ha ha).
- I can get past pretty much most of the issues with LDM – except the waiting. I’m quite a patient person, but even for me, this is a pretty testing period of my life right now (I mean come on, I’ve already waited a year). If we were in different cities, or even on the same continent, it wouldn’t be so hard to be apart, but flights to Asia are so damn expensive (like break the bank expensive) and I don’t think making multiple trips in a few months would be very practical *crying face emoji*
Despite all of the issues and problems that come with being apart despite being married, I’m really thankful that Sonu and I are strong and mature enough (maturity levels can be debatable sometimes though) to work through everything. I hope you guys enjoyed reading this post, and as always I would love to hear about any of your experiences of being in long distance relationships/marriages – even friendships because being apart isn’t easy for anyone. Lots of love to you all,