I came across a blog post on Thought Catalog – 21 Pieces Of Advice From People Over 60 (would 100% recommend checking it out btw) and it was actually quite eye opening. After reading the post, I thought about what sorts of things we as young adults should know to ensure we aren’t full of regret/negativity later on in life and even now, when we should be full of energy and excitement. I know it’s not possible to be happy and content all of the time, but we should definitely try to be more positive (which is so important in a world that is full of hate and trolling a lot of the time).
I’m not an expert at life, I’m still making mistakes and figuring things out, but I’ve also experienced enough and learnt a few things from the mistakes I have already made to understand what sorts of changes I need to bring about in my life to be more positive. I hope that when you read this, it’ll help you put some things in perspective (even if it is the smallest thing).
1. Drop the negativity.
I feel like this is such an important thing to understand as you get older (you know, once you get your first grey hair) and start to realise what’s important in life. I know you can never be 100% positive all the time (unless you’re high on sugar or coffee, then maybe) but we shouldn’t let negative thoughts or even people creep into our lives. Cut toxic people out of your life, say sorry for your mistakes (you’ll feel a lot lighter afterwards), stop holding grudges, they don’t do anything other than mentally and emotionally weigh you down. This all seems a lot easier said than done but if you start making small changes everyday you will soon start to see a difference.
I remember at one point when I thought I was surrounded by friends that cared for me, but they never actually had any good interests for me at heart. It took me a long time to realise that I didn’t actually need people like that in my life because they were toxic. I know that a lot of you will be able to relate to this because you’ve been through it, or you’re going through it, and it sucks, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. If you feel like someone isn’t adding any value to your life, then you don’t need to deal with that. Delete them out of your life (kinda like the trash bin on your computer).
Tip: Follow thegoodquote on Instagram for some positive vibes. Don’t let negative people cloud your life, I mean how dare they?
2. Adopt the 5 year rule.
This one is quite straightforward. Before panicking or being upset about any situation, I think to myself that everything is temporary. Whenever you’re stressed about a deadline that’s looming or an upcoming meeting, just remember that it’s temporary. For situations that are a little more complex e.g a breakup (because we know how much they suck) take comfort in the fact that what you’re feeling isn’t going to last forever (and maybe have some Ben&Jerrys).
3. Invest in your health.
Let’s be real, if you don’t care now about yourself now, then who is? We’ve passed the stage where we can just get our mums to look after us (huge bummer, I know) and it’s x10 better to start taking care of our bodies and our minds now before we’re 55 and regretting it. With all these articles on Facebook telling us about the different exercises we should be doing, and the vitamins and minerals we should be getting, it can seem like being healthy is a massive chore, but it’s not. Workouts don’t have to be 60 minute sweat sessions in the gym, even mini workouts 3 times a week can make a huge difference. I know it’s more appealing to sit on the sofa and have a massive Netflix binge (trust me, I know the struggle) but your body will thank you when you’re 40 (plus you’ll look and feel younger too).
Here’s a link to an 8 minute workout… 8 minutes?! You have no excuse.
4. Read books. A lot of them.
Reading books has been and always will be a special experience. We all love a good book, you get to escape into another world, and it’s an amazing feeling. There’s a subwaybookreview account on Instagram, and it’s definitely worth a follow – you’ll get book reviews by strangers on the subway and some amazing book recommendations.
Here are 5 of my personal faves:
I promise you will love them.
4. Stand up for yourself.
Sometimes it’s difficult to stand up against something you don’t believe is right, or when you feel like someone is treating you wrongly, and it’s understandable, it’s not the easiest thing to do in the world (especially if you hate confrontation). I’m a pretty headstrong person (and believe me, it’s taken a long time to get here), and when I make decisions, I stick by them. If someone tries to undermine my decisions (especially if they don’t understand the reasons) then I will stand up for myself. And everybody should, it’s important to feel confident about the choices you make.
Not everything has to be a big confrontation though. You have to be strong and stand for what is right – even if it’s something small like calling up EE and having a go at them if your 3G isn’t working (which is seriously annoying can I just say).
5. Know when to pick your battles.
I have to be honest, this is something that I am still getting to grips with. I have to actively teach myself to be patient and be rational when it comes to certain things (and people) and it isn’t always so easy, but it’s always worthwhile. I find that before I want to say/do something on impulse, I first think whether it’s really worth it? I sometimes act before I think and then instantly regret it, because it causes a mess that could have been avoided if I had been rational for even 5 seconds. But I’m learning, and I’m getting better at it; it doesn’t happen overnight, but it happens.
6. Have breakfast in the mornings.
Okay, so this point is really important (I would even say the most important piece of advise on this list because, you know, food). Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and here are 5 reasons why. I mean how do people even function without food in the mornings? How? I know it’s easy to miss breakfast and just grab a Starbucks on the way to work but that’s not going to do anything for you (you know it’s true). Breakfast can be quick and healthy, and if you need some inspo then click here for some quick breakfast ideas over on Greatist (there’s a really tasty smoothie recipe on there too).
I hope you guys enjoyed reading this post, I feel like I’ve been able to put a couple of things in perspective for myself just by writing this post. I would love to know any of your own thoughts/feelings about what you feel is valuable to understand while we’re young, so please comment down below.